hands free mama. it’s hard. but, good.

Have you ever tried be a {hands free} mama? It’s hard. Do you even know what I am talking about? It’s my new mantra and I am hoping you will come along on the journey. I can’t promise it will be easy. But, I think it might be life changing. Are you in?

Here’s the truth? I have caught myself checking my email a million times a day or double checking my text messages, instead of being present with my kids. Over the past few months, I have noticed a chance in me as a mommy. I have spent more time with my phone or my computer than I should. I know it. I am sure my kids know it. And, it has been in the back of my brain for months now.

Did you notice? I took a break from blog posts. I tried to step away from the things that were distracting me, but it still didn’t feel quite right. On my nightstand was a constant reminder that I needed to refocus. It has been sitting there since last May. A book. A book that kept staring at me.  A book that my MOPS group handed out to every mama as a goodbye gift. Yep, it sat there all summer collecting dust and staring at me.

Last week I couldn’t handle it looking at me any more. I picked it up. I started reading it. And I was hooked. I love it. I am trying to take baby steps, but have quickly realized the power of the words in that book.

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The author, Rachel Macy Stafford, is so honest and truthful in her search for balance, something I, too, struggle with on a daily basis. By the second page of Chapter 1 she reminded me of my purpose and aspirations for my own kids. I have only just started, but I am already committed to being a {hands free} mama. Scratch that. I am going to work on being a {hands free} mama/wife/friend/daughter.

I don’t want to be that mom who forgets to cherish the moments that are in front of me. I want to look back and know that I have made the most of every moment.

As I started on my new journey last week I decided to start a journal. It’s not cute. I quickly grabbed it out of the kids’ art drawer {it pains me that it is not cute. sad, but true}, but my first page is what reminded me of why this is so important.

My middle baby woke up early before school and snuggled in bed with me while I was reading. He asked if he could write in the journal too. As he was so engrossed in his part of the journal entry I was overcome with just how important this is for me. Just look. His picture reminded me of the mama I strive to be.


Maybe you are past the mama stage in life, but I am thinking this might also be an avenue for strengthening a marriage. I know I am using it as a tool to make my marriage as strong as it can be. Perhaps it will do the same for your marriage. Won’t you come along on the journey too? I sure hope so. We can share notes. Are you in?

Want to learn more?  Visit the Hands Free Mama site and learn more about how life changing it can be. Though I am only a few chapters in, I imagine it will be a great way to ‘free’ myself and be the best mama I can be.

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5 Responses to hands free mama. it’s hard. but, good.

  1. Courtney September 18, 2014 at 9:11 am #

    Thanks Jess. I needed this post. Particularly because I only have less then 40 days left of maternity leave. I’m in and going hands free as of today the best I can!

    • lulu & linen September 18, 2014 at 9:38 am #

      Hooray! Someone to join me… Now if I can only finish the book!

  2. Trisha September 18, 2014 at 9:39 am #

    Love this, Jess. Just checked out her website and it made me all teary. I’m going to buy tiny topic notebooks for my kids. Great conversation starters…if they choose to share. 🙂

    • lulu & linen September 18, 2014 at 9:41 am #

      I love it! I’m so excited to hear how it goes!

  3. Tiffany W. September 18, 2014 at 2:54 pm #

    Love this J!

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